Lies Women Believe

Faith @ Work Monthly Message: April 21, 2008
Featured Speaker:  Sarah Hites

 As a real estate agent in a highly competitive market, Sarah Hites had learned to believe a self-defeating lie about herself:  “My self-worth equals my performance plus everyone else's opinion of me."  It caused her to hold back from taking risks, reaching out to people and approaching her job with confidence.  When she lost a real estate listing or a sale, or was rejected over the phone when prospecting, she told herself she wasn’t as good as other realtors and never would be.

Even in her personal life this lie made her fearful.  When she saw a woman sitting by herself at church who looked “much more put together than me” she struggled with whether or not to talk to her.  When she finally did get up her nerve, the woman was very grateful, but Sarah had to really struggle to overcome feelings of inferiority, especially when someone came up to her during the conversation and pointed out that her children had taken their clothes off and were running around naked on the church playground!

This lie Sarah believed could have continued causing damage in her business and personal life, but God started speaking to her through a book she read called “The Search for Significance” and she began to recognize the difference between the world’s lies and God’s truths.  God showed her that her standing with Him is secure and that her true worth is measured in His eyes, not the world’s.

Instead of believing lies like “I have to meet certain standards”, “I have to be approved by others,”  “failures make me unworthy of love” or “I’ll never change; I’m hopeless”, we can believe what God says, that we’re fully pleasing to Him, totally accepted by Him, deeply loved and complete in Him.

The message in all of this for us is that knowing the truth about these false beliefs frees us to serve.  We can be more effective as God’s instruments in our workplaces if we accept the truth in our lives and let it release us for His use.

Information taken from "The Search for Significance" by Robert S. McGee, W Publishing Group, 1998